“So I had the privilege of meeting with Yorkshire Mistress Helena. And it showed me absolutely what anyone needs to do find the perfect True Dominatrix. At the risk of spoilers this early in a blog post, if you want to find the perfect True Dominatrix then you already have if you are considering contacting Mistress Helena.

But let me break my journey to find someone like Mistress Helena – someone who has brought joy to my life even as she spat on me – down. First of all you have to be cynical. If something seems too good to be true, or something seems too easy to be true, or if they ask for a deposit that is just about enough to pay for their next four pack of Stella then you should run away. Because they are not planning to dominate you. They are just looking for their next Stella. And this isn’t just the cynicism talking – at the same time as Mistress Helena was asking me for a substantial but in no way bank-breaking deposit for a session with her I also had someone demanding a £10 deposit through PayPal to their neighbour’s name. Which happened to be a man’s name.

It is worth being cynical sometimes.

Yet you also have to look for basic humanity in your contact with someone who is going to strap you down to their whipping bench and make your journey home uncomfortable because they have properly beaten you. The main thing here is a certain warmth. I asked Yorkshire Mistress Helena when I first contacted her about whether she would consider torturing then punishing me. She responded with an email that seemed delighted with the idea. And, fellow subs of any gender, don’t you think that is an immediate win? As opposed to the Plastic Dommes who are both bored and dismissive of what you want.

And to actually turning up at Mistress Helena’s place, when I did so the woman who was very shortly going to make it largely impossible to sit down on my train ride home (worth it) was an exemplary host in a way that knocked me off balance. Again mainly because of those plastic Dommes and their contempt for their submissives. Instead of contempt I felt like a welcome house guest who was genuinely given a tour of the premises. The wolves terrify me, but the rest of it did not. Even when we went upstairs and our proper session started.

You are not going to get details of that – it is between Mistress Helena and myself. Suffice to say though it was everything I wanted and more. She is a genuinely talented True Dominatrix who pushes people to but not beyond their limits.

And then afterwards we talked for what must have been at least an hour. Why does that matter? Well it goes back to what I was talking about when it comes to basic humanity. BDSM is not just about the back flogging, the butt caning and the CBT (in fairness I got all and more.) It is also about understanding when the “play” is over there are still two humans in the room. And this Yorkshire Mistress, Mistress Helena is both a fantastic Domme and a fantastic person.

I am very much looking forward to seeing Mistress Helena again. And this time I might not even bring excess envelopes. And see what I mean about being human? One session and we already have an in-joke.

Actually two, Jean-Paul said.”

I hope you enjoyed the Review from ‘Jean-Paul’, to meet such a beautifully submissive male whom dominance will prevail in day to day life, is truly a dream to a True Dominatrix like myself.

Trust is vital in a good BDSM relationship, with my training and interpersonal skills I do my best to bring out the best in anyone. Being a Dominatrix is a power position not to be abused or done in a tongue in cheek approach. I am real and live the life with my collared slaves, submissives and I will always be that real deal. A True Dominatrix…

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